Truth or dare can be a great deal
of fun in a dating environment. The tension between making someone
reveal something that they find personal and private (and possibly
embarrassing and shameful) or having to do something embarrassing or
shameful is delightful (when done in a playful kind spirit).
you you lost your virginity? Or show us your breasts". That's a hard
dilemma weighing up short and long term reputational risks and costs.
other side is that it is a multi round game with multiple parties. So
your questions will elicit a response as loyalties shift and reinforce
around the room.
In many ways you can see it as a multi-iterated version of the prisoners dilemma. The social dynamics can be very interesting.
It is however best played with people who you are very close to, or who you are not likely to see again.
I think that Charles Bollmann
is wrong in that social versions of the truth and dare game can be very
useful for teenagers and young adults to understand and explore social
norms, and how they deviate from them.
Simple dare games are
dangerous and quite possibly stupid - but at the same time much of what
we admire in heroes and explorers is the same kind of action
rationalised and eulogised.
1st grade, I was 6 years old. I was dared to jump off the roof of our school onto the concrete blacktop playground below.
that time the school had a ramp that surrounded the front entryway and
if you were nimble enough you could climb up the sides of one set of
stairs and onto the concrete sides of this ramp and from there up onto
the roof (it was the early 1980's, safety was not primary in the minds
As for my self, I was big on bravado and on impressing older boys. I was short on foresight.
Truth or dare is the classic party game of embarrassment. A group of
people take turns asking each other “truth or dare”? When someone
chooses truth, they must answer the question truthfully regardless of
how embarrassing it is. When someone chooses dare, they are given a task
to complete. If they don’t like the first dare they can choose to be
given another dare but they must complete the second dare. You cannot
dare someone to answer a question.
It’s a great way to learn more about your friends. Maybe more than
you ever wanted to know. And if they insist on remaining secretive at
least you get to be entertained by them doing outrageous dares.
This is a list of some basic truth questions and dares to get you
started. You can adapt them to suit the atmosphere of the get together.
Just remember to not get too dark with the truth questions. You are
aiming for embarrassment and hilarity. You can find out some pretty dark
things about your friend’s past if you aren’t careful. Also remember to
keep the dares at a reasonable level of craziness. Someone gets
seriously injured or the cops get called and the party is over.
As long as you don’t go overboard, playing truth or dare can be a
blast at parties. So use and adapt the truth questions and dares from
this list, and have an incredibly embarrassing game of truth or dare!
Truth or Dare: Questions List
What are you most self-conscious about?
What is the most embarrassing picture of you?
What would you do if you were the opposite sex for a month?
What is the most expensive thing you have stolen?
What is the most childish thing you still do?
Have you ever let someone take the blame for something you did?
What do most of your friends think about you that is totally untrue?
Who here would you most like to make out with?
Have you ever cheated or been cheated on?
What lie have you told that hurt someone?
What is the meanest you have been to someone that didn’t deserve it?
What is something that people think you would never do but you have?
What was the worst encounter you had with a police officer?
Tell me about your most awkward date.
What is the silliest thing you have an emotional attachment to?
What is your deepest darkest fear?
Tell me about your first kiss.
Where is the strangest place you have peed?
Who is the person you most regret kissing?
Have you ever crapped your pants since you were a child?
What is the most embarrassing thing your parents have caught you doing?
What secret about yourself did you tell someone in confidence and then they told a lot of other people?
When was the most inappropriate time you farted?
What is the scariest dream you have ever had?
What is the most embarrassing thing in your room?
Why did you break up with your last boyfriend or girlfriend?
What is the stupidest thing you have ever done?
When was the last time you peed in bed?
Who is the sexiest person here?
What is the grossest thing that has come out of your body?
What terrible thing have you done that you lied to cover up?
Who have you loved but they didn’t love you back?
What is something that you have never told anyone?
What is the most disgusting habit you have?
What was the cruelest joke you played on someone?
What is the most embarrassing thing you have put up on social media?
What bad thing have you done that no one else found out about?
What was the most awkward romantic encounter you have had?
What is the grossest thing you have had in your mouth?
Tell me about the last time someone unexpectedly walked in on you while you were naked.
What is the most embarrassing nickname you have ever had?
What is the biggest lie you have ever told?
What is the most embarrassing photo you have on your phone?
Describe your most recent romantic encounter.
What is the weirdest thing you have done for a boyfriend or girlfriend?
Who here has the nicest butt?
What is your biggest regret?
Is it true that you (whatever you or the group suspects they do / did)?
When was the last time you picked your nose without a tissue?
What do you really hope your parents never find out about?
Tell us your most embarrassing vomit story.
Tell me something you don’t want me to know.
Have you ever made out with someone here?
What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?
What have you done that people here would judge you most for doing?
What would you do if you were the opposite gender for a day?
Who is your crush?
Truth or Dare: Dares List
For a guy, put on makeup. For a girl, wash off your make up.
Dance with no music for 1 minute.
Try to drink a glass water while standing on your hands.
Let the group pose you in an embarrassing position and take a picture.
Curse like sailor for 20 seconds straight.
Do four cartwheels in row.
Play a song on by slapping your butt cheeks till someone guesses the song.
Give someone your phone and let them send one text to anyone in your contacts.
Depict a human life through interpretive dance.
Lick the floor.
Drink a small cup of a concoction that the group makes. (Don’t make
anything that might cause bodily harm. No visits to the emergency
Write something embarrassing somewhere on your body (that can be hidden with clothing) with a permanent marker.
Let someone shave part of your body.
Eat five spoonfuls of a condiment.
Let the group give you a new hairstyle.
Make every person in the group smile, keep going until everyone has cracked a smiled.
Sniff the armpits of everyone in the room.
Let the person to your left draw on your face with a pen.
Make up a 30 second opera about a person or people in the group and perform it.
Serenade the person to your right.
Talk in an accent for the next 3 rounds.
Beg and plead the person to your right not to leave you for that
other boy or girl. Weeping, gnashing of teeth, and wailing is
Attempt to break dance for 30 seconds.
Kiss the person to your left.
Do the worm.
Do push ups until you can’t do any more, wait 5 seconds, and then do one more.
Sell a piece trash to someone in the group. Use your best salesmanship.
Let the group look through your phone for 2 minutes.
Attempt to do a magic trick.
Switch clothes with someone of the opposite sex in the group for three rounds.