Q. Why do we accept to perform dares? And why do we dare someone to do something?


Truth or dare can be a great deal of fun in a dating environment. The tension between making someone reveal something that they find personal and private (and possibly embarrassing and shameful) or having to do something embarrassing or shameful is delightful (when done in a playful kind spirit).

"Have you you lost your virginity? Or show us your breasts". That's a hard dilemma weighing up short and long term reputational risks and costs.

The other side is that it is a multi round game with multiple parties. So your questions will elicit a response as loyalties shift and reinforce around the room.

In many ways you can see it as a multi-iterated version of the prisoners dilemma. The social dynamics can be very interesting.

It is however best played with people who you are very close to, or who you are not likely to see again.

I think that Charles Bollmann is wrong in that social versions of the truth and dare game can be very useful for teenagers and young adults to understand and explore social norms, and how they deviate from them.

Simple dare games are dangerous and quite possibly stupid - but at the same time much of what we admire in heroes and explorers is the same kind of action rationalised and eulogised.